Living with an ostomy and navigating intimacy is a deeply personal journey that varies in experience for each individual. This article explores some key considerations around physical intimacy when you have an ostomy.
Penetrative sex
Living with an ostomy can place limits on some sex positions – you may have to adapt or adjust what you were once used to in order to accommodate the presence of your ostomy pouch. Trying out different things is key to see what is right for you. Communicating with your partner(s) about what is comfortable for you and any concerns is important so you can enjoy intimacy and not let your pouch disrupt your sex life.
Ostomy surgery can place constraints on anal sex. Depending on the type of surgery you have, this may or may not be possible. It’s important to choose a suitable lubricant. Always talk to your healthcare provider for specific advice based on your personal situation. It’s important to note that an ostomy must never be used for penetrative sex.
Feeling good and experimenting
After surgery, you may feel less in tune with your body, or perhaps less confident being intimate. Try to take the time to work with your partner to discover what is good for you and be open to trying new things.
You want to try additional measures to help you feel confident when being intimate. Sometimes, people may choose to conceal their ostomy pouch in specific underwear. Others may choose to use a supporting product to help secure their ostomy barrier and pouch to increase their confidence.
Who to talk to if your stoma causes challenges with intimacy
There are plenty of places you may turn to if you need extra support navigating intimacy when living with your stoma. You may reach out to:
- Your ostomy nurse or doctor can advise you on what is possible in your specific case
- Your dedicated Coloplast Care Advisor who can provide support through education material and product samples* (if necessary)
- Local ostomy communities – where you may connect with other people in similar situations and receive first-hand support and advice
*Limitations apply
This information is for educational purposes only. It is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice and should not be interpreted to contain treatment recommendations. You should rely on the healthcare professional who knows your individual history for personal medical advice and diagnosis.
Call your healthcare provider if you have any medical concerns about managing your ostomy. You may also contact your Coloplast® Care Advisor for product usage and availability questions at 1-877-858-2656.
