Communicating to loved ones about TAI
It might be important to you to be able to discuss your bowel issues and transanal irrigation (TAI) routine with your partner. Ideally, you should be able to do this in a relaxed, non-pressured manner. It may feel slightly uncomfortable at first, however, be encouraged that with time, these conversations can bring you closer together and your partner can be a supportive figure when managing your TAI routine. You don’t have to do this alone.
Having both open conversations and privacy
If you are living with a bowel dysfunction, it is only natural that your partner would be concerned about your health. Perhaps they want to discuss this with you, or perhaps you have already broached the topic. This is great, you already have a supportive figure in your life who wants to check all is well!
Be open to discussing your feelings surrounding TAI. Share your worries and listen to your partner’s concerns. Honesty in talking about this topic will only help build mutual trust and respect between the two of you. Be patient and allow both yourself and your partner the time you need to come to terms with your new TAI routine.
Sometimes, you may also want some privacy. Perhaps you want to establish some boundaries around these conversations, so you don’t feel like your bowel dysfunction or TAI routine defines you or your relationship.
Be open and honest about these concerns, your partner will understand. Approach this conversation gently, as they are only trying to be supportive. If you are managing well with your TAI routine, you may want to suggest that they assume all is well unless told otherwise. This way, you can go about your daily routine without needing to discuss your bowel too often or feeling that it defines your relationship.
Performing TAI at home when your partner is there
Even if you are very open with your partner about your TAI routine, you may still be nervous about how the daily routine of TAI affects your intimacy. Always be open about these feelings and talk about various strategies to overcome any concerns. This is important so you maintain your TAI routine.
Talk to your partner if you would like extra privacy until you are more comfortable. If you feel self-conscious and your home allows for it, you may opt to use your transanal irrigation system in a designated bathroom, or if needed, ask if you can be alone. Your partner will understand.
You may also want to use background noise to help distract both yourself and your partner. Put the TV on in another room, or play some of your favourite music when using TAI. You may even suggest your partner does another house chore at the same time, such as vacuuming or gardening. If you explain how this would make you feel more comfortable, they will be on board!
Maintaining healthy communication
Ultimately, you need to be patient when getting used to your new TAI routine. You may be worried that TAI will affect your intimacy or romance at home, but by maintaining open communication and talking frankly about how you feel will help your partner to understand. This will help to build trust and respect between the two of you.
Allow both yourself and your partner the time you need. And if you are having difficulties in your routine, or would like further support from Coloplast Care, you are always welcome to reach out to your Care Advisor on (phone) (date, time).
